Paul Vasquez

Boom-boom, boom-boom, boom-boom…  We all know our hearts beat to pump blood around our body. But how does our heart rate and beating pattern relate to our resilience and ability to manage stress? More importantly, can we consciously influence our physiology to help us overcome shy bladder syndrome? What is heart rate variability? Heart rate […]

What is NLP? Neuro-linguistic Programming is a set of action-oriented techniques created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970s. Since then, NLP has been used in clinical settings to help with: healing trauma, developing better habits, treating phobias etc.1 That means NLP can be used to help you with shy bladder syndrome! These techniques

Why relying on motivation is ineffective Similar to emotions, motivation dwindles. It comes and goes. Much like the wind, you can experience a powerful gust of motivation that will set you on a path to overcome pee shyness only for motivation to then fade, making you abandon the behaviour it influenced you to engage in.

Does the way you breathe influence the extent to which you experience paruresis? The answer might surprise you! Why breathing matters Paruresis is an automatic physiological response to a certain environmental stimulus. In essence, when your subconscious threat detection mechanism perceives an environmental stimulus to be a threat, you are launched into a state of

Uh oh, nooo, not again!! There I stood at the urinal trough in a jam-packed nightclub restroom back in my college years. I was a few drinks in and beyond desperate to void and get back to socialising and dancing with my friends. Nope. Not a drop. I left the venue and made my way

Aghh, the frustration!! It has happened to you, hasn’t it? You’ve stood there at the urinal for for what feels like an eternity and nothing. Nada. Not even a drop. Why does this happen? What causes shy bladder? And more importantly, how can you overcome this nightmare??? The history of shy bladder syndrome If you

A big part of shy bladder syndrome for many people is the secrecy around it. We seek to avoid judgement and mockery, and pretend that we have no problem voiding in public. Secrecy exacerbates shame For many people, the shame surrounding their experiences with the seeming inability to void in public environments (aka paruresis) can

Disclaimer: This blog post is for informational purposes only and does not promote or encourage the consumption of any substances. While certain anxiolytic medications and/or supplements have been found beneficial for managing performance anxiety, it is essential to consult a qualified healthcare professional before initiating any medication. A healthcare provider can assess an individual’s specific

What is CBT? A to the B to the C to the CBT (musical beat in the background). Okay, that’s enough singing. Let’s get down to business. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a term thrown about quite a bit in the world of psychology and psychotherapy. But what actually is it? CBT is a treatment

What is the negativity bias? The negativity bias is a cognitive bias that refers to the tendency of people to pay more attention to, remember more vividly, and be more affected by negative experiences and information than by positive experiences of equal magnitude. In other words, negative experiences and information tend to have a stronger